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Lean in By Sheryl Sandberg

When I came up with Marykenyablog, I created a book review segment with the intention of reviewing the books I read every month. I wanted to integrate my love for books and my love for writing on this amazing platform but things never worked out as I hoped, mostly because I was a bit busy plus I had no idea how to go about it. I still don’t, but today I’ll do my very first test drive. (It’s scary and fun all at the same time.)

I have read a total of 6 books this year but one that stood out for me was one; Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg which worked as an amazing eye opener and the best thing about it was that it didn’t even attempt to bullshit any kind of situation.

With that said, let me point out the most important thing I look for before I invest in a book. I very much admire ‘old books.’ Literature written in the early 20th century just work because I feel their true authenticity with their words. I strongly feel that literature from this time was true and didn’t really focus on book sales but rather helping people who really needed help. They were created as a true form of therapy.

Please note that I don’t discredit books written recently because Lean in and many other books, are genuinely amazing.

Lean in is a book basically designed to help women. How you ask? The book is comprised of various issues that affect women in general and upon reading this amazing book, I realized that yes, as women we have come a long way in terms of equality. We solely stand on the shoulders of the women before us who fought so hard for us to enjoy where we currently are as women. They put in blood, sweat and tears for the sake of equality. But until recently, a lot of us have been really comfortable with where the world places us just as long as we are comfortable. She couldn’t have said it any better because these words stuck with me.

I admit that the first time I held the book, I was a bit skeptical about it. There was what I expected to find, and what I discovered. At just 24 years turning 25, this book made past situations more clear. And it also made me think about the future differently because a lot of new elements were brought in.

So if you’re a woman who is looking to grow herself career wise, well this is the book for you! And this piece will try and give a brief overview of what it’s all about.

ItIdives into discussing the various issues women encounter as they try to go through various stages of their life and career. But it mainly tends to focus on pushing women to leadership. The future is female.

Tagline: Women, work and the will to lead.

Leadership is something a lot of women shy away from because of the hurdles that are stack up against us. We are afraid to speak up and to stand against our male counterparts because our society still doesn’t feel too comfortable with the idea of us leading. Women in various leadership positions have in many ways made headlines including Sheryl herself but that’s not enough…we need more of them!! We need to make it as normal as having male leadership.

But what completely stood out for me in this book was when Sheryl addressed what I can say is my biggest fear. Having to handle my career and family ONE DAY. I wish and hope to have a family in the future but when I look at most successful women in top positions, the narrative seems to change. Let’s face facts…most of these women are either never married or divorced. Which brings into perspective the partners we choose and the agreement we have with them.

But does it mean that all men are against supporting their women?? Not at all… it’s because most women haven’t made their partners real partners. (Page 104)

Balancing work and family isn’t easy at all and that’s why a lot of women take a back seat when they get children. Most women now don’t have real partners at home someone to help out and  step in when she needs to become the best version of herself both at home and at work. She called it the 50/50 equal share between husband and wife at work and at home too.

The bitch mentality as I like to call it is also brought up. Women have been known to be their worst enemies. Not supporting each other at work and even when it comes to domestic issues. These cat fights have continued to bring us down which is completely sad because a lot of us don’t realize our strength in numbers. We are stronger together…we fight better and are more successful once we show a united front. This is the best way to push a lot of women to leadership in government, industries and companies.

Feminism isn’t a bad word it’s something one should be proud of. Most people including Marykenyablog was afraid to call herself a feminist because the world has taught us that women who claim to be so, are the ones who hate men! This is wrong. A feminist is someone who believes in social, political, and economic equality of the sexes. And this include men too!! (Page 158)

This book diversely discusses most issues that women face and with such grace, solutions to these issues too are brought up in the most simplest way. I believe that this book is really brave. Equality is something that all of us should strive for. It starts from the roots. Look at our families. How do we raise our kids?? Both boys and girls should grow up knowing they’re both equal and amazingly different all at the same time. Respect is also very important and this will set the pace for them even as they go through their different phases in life.

I believe women are awesome!! We are uniquely different and have a lot to offer to the world.

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