If you’ve closely been monitoring the daily news and social media timelines, you are well aware of the hashtag #ifikiewazazi which has flooded our social media feeds. With this, we have come to a realization that most of our teenagers have now decided to go the Kim kardashian way or to bring it closer home, the Vera sidika way, of posting unexplainable and unseable pictures that they have been posting online so as to get the social media fame and to please their peers.
Teens have lately decided to use photo shoots to live out their wildest dreams but it doesn’t stop there. The said ‘photo shoots’ are in turn being used as cover ups for drug use and engaging in sexual activities. Busted recently at Michuki park as K24 TV reported, these kids were found in possession of bhang, p2 pills, condoms and a lot of them were found in acts that were unexplainable.
Charity begins at home. Is what most of us were taught in school but what is happening there? Most parents don’t know what goes on social media. Fact! My mum does not know much about social media because she’s not in any way interested in what happens there, but, she has a teenage son who is very much active on social media and is very interested in the hype that goes on online and upon watching the News recently, she came to a realization that her son may be in actual danger. The phone has been taken away a couple of times but recently, the last straw was pulled and the phone issue became a closed file but in other cases, how do you even start dissecting the situation?
It’s tough trust me because a majority of teens now, are in access to not just a normal phone, but a smart phone. Taking away their phones helps resolve the situation in some way because they atleast stay offline for a certain amount of time but there’s a loop hole. We are not around our children 24/7 especially when you are a working parent. So you have no idea of what goes on when you are not around your kids.
In media there’s one unwritten rule, sex sells. It’s what most companies in collaboration with media use. The aspect of sex in inclusivity of nudity helps their products move fast. Case and point: Remember the Fresh fry advertisement that had a sexual connotation from the beginning to the end? It caused a lot of chatter and uproar and I think at some point it got pulled down but had it not accomplished what it was set to do? Create ‘awareness’? Everybody wanted to know more about this product. Even if you didn’t buy it, you knew about it.
Social media has been filtrated by this rule and it’s no longer unspoken anymore. People are thirsty for likes, and the number followers hence leading them to do everything humanly possible to get them. Social media accreditation as I like to call it, only costs someone to cross the line. A regular photo with just a smile and a fully clothed individual may not get you as many likes as you would want but one with ‘questionable’ form of dressing, will definitely get you the likes in their thousands and millions!! Is it wrong??
As this is done by most of us and the celebrities we follow, these teenagers are looking at every single thing we are doing. So why are we sitting pretty bashing them and sending them to hang? What does that even say about us? Complete and utter hypocrites is what we are! Why don’t we start by cleaning up our act social media feeds then start talking?
At this point the only difference between us and the kids is the Identification Cards which go ahead to prove the point that as long as you are legal, you can do whatever you want regardless of the consequences. Approach most indivuduals and the most popular response will be: ‘I do what I want whenever I want and nobody is in a position to judge me only God can judge.’ This statement is completely true. I couldn’t refute it one bit but what about social responsibility??
We have none whatsoever!!! So how do we expect our kids to act right? These photo shoots have been happening for the longest time. The most people did was just whisper under their breaths of how wrong these deeds were and none of them would stop them or even involve authorities. Either way they say what happens in darkness always comes to light and most of these teens have been apprehended but then what? ‘Ni hii wiki tu’ the topic will only last for a couple of days and people will quickly move on to something else.
Let me take it back a bit, our parents, grandparents and the ones who came before that, were raised in a certain way. A system was in place to make sure that kids were raised the right way. Strict parents were there who watched their kids with a hawks eye. The society meanwhile acted as parents too. Mum always tells us of how people with any kind of authority in their ‘kavillage’ would punish them if they found you in the wrong so you had to always be on your best behavior.
If this happened now, probably all hell would break loose and maybe that’s why the society didn’t react properly to this happenings. One can at times just watch helplessly because there’s little we can do.
Adolescence as we all know it is not an easy smooth sailing time for any teen and bringing in the confusing information from the social media platforms, doesn’t help. The internet (social media) is something none of us can control, and in turn it destroys a lot of us why? Because even as adults, we cant seem to get a handle on it. Full-grown adults now find them selves succumbing to social media pressure. So how do we expect the kids to do any better? Are we right to sit on our high horses and judge them? I think not.
Truth be told with all the arguments in the world there’s nothing that will really change. We cant go back to our parents time where everything was in control and structured. Things are completely different now. We live in a society where not only our teenagers are discovering themselves, but adults as well. There’s no sense of direction. Leadership has failed and is no longer in play anymore who is going to take us away from this hole we put ourselves? Let us try and protect our kids from these nastiness but before we do that, I suggest we check ourselves too.